Of course perhaps they are just not that into me, but it certainly doesn’t seem that way; it just feels like they are not comfortable with the idea of dating a woman without an expectation that it may lead to marriage.

Relationship advice for Indian women who want to start dating in India.

By Rakhee Ghelani Dating in India is a relatively modern concept, particularly when there is no intention of marriage.

As it is something that is frowned upon in some circles, there isn’t always the opportunity to discuss it openly or seek relationship advice from family or friends.

However it is not just women who are bound by these stereotypes.

One of my male friends explained to me that he doesn’t feel that he could just date someone, and even at the first meeting he finds himself assessing whether he would be happy to be sitting across the table from this woman in three years time with a child.

The concept of just enjoying a woman’s company in a way that isn’t platonic without it leading to marriage is something he does not feel capable of, which means every woman he dates is held up to incredibly high standards and scrutiny.

I have also found this to be true in my own experience; where I am quite upfront about not wishing to be a wife, men who’ve appeared to be interested in me, soon start to avoid being alone with me.

Is there room in Indian culture now just to simply date and get to know someone without it having to be a precursor to marriage?

Dating in Western terms is where two people go out and just enjoy each other’s company; there is not necessarily any expectation of a commitment nor marriage.

It is a way to discover different people and to see what you do and do not prefer in a mate.

Over here though, society still considers marriage to be the main goal for Indian women.