Free cam2cam show - Dating a man whose divorce is not final
Is it Biblical to date before you are legally divorced? Divorce must be final or it is the same as adultry in God's eyes.Do you think this is correct or are people free to date during the divorce process?
You raised some good questions, especially about the church's responsbilitiy to hold church members/eaders to account.
Sadly, I believe that in our current American culture, it has become all too common for professing Christians to disregard what the Bible teaches about many issues and live in outright disobedience.
One example is Christians living together prior to marriage; it seems that has become much more common these days.
If, however, you mean "date" as in going out with someone who has become your significant other emotionally, or hoping to find out whether that person is a potential future spouse, then I would agree that this is not biblical.
Someone who is looking for a future marriage before the current one is legally over is basically cheating on their legal spouse, in my opinion. If divorce legitimately severs the marriage bond in God's eyes, then remarriage would not be called adultery since adultery is the violation of the marriage bed. " Perhaps in the name of grace and mercy we are failing to take a strong stand on the issues. We are to turn one another from sin, to watch out for one another, to hold one another accountable and call one another to repentance.
Furthermore, it is disingenious for the other party to be dating someone who regards their current legal bond so lightly. For an in depth and extremely conservative study on this subject see the book "The Divorce Myth", by J. Perhaps in an effort to avoid legalism, we have lost perspective on the fact that God does know best, and His ways are always best. Maybe a life of celibacy for the divorcee who simply stays close to Jesus is much better for them than the possibility of making the same mistakes over again in a subsequent marriage.) Perhaps we have come to the place in American Christianity where we think that because the scriptures state clearly that God is love, we don't have to reckon with His other attributes, such as wisdom, justice, etc. As to responsibilities of the church in regards to confrontation and accountability, the scriptures are clear (1 Tim. Confrontation must always be done with a view toward restoration of the repentant. Seek wisdom from your church leadership, if possible. The answer might be that in the case of "dating" there is no evidence of sexual misconduct and therefore no clear point of sin to confront.
In an even more conservative perspective, many would say that even after the divorce, remarriage may not be a legitimate option. I personally think that anyone who is currently legally married and yet is "dating" while awaiting divorce proceedings, is undermining whatever is left of their marriage and showing no regard for the possibility of a future reconciliation.
David Carter A blood stained cross, an empty tomb For by His love He met my doom.
And now I stand in His good place Amazed by grace, in His embrace...."Christ died for our sins, according to the Scriptures..." (1 Co.